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Deaths

Bruce Graham Henderson (G46-50)

  • When
    6 November 2025
  • Where
    West Susex
  • Age
    92

His wife Celia advises us that her husband Bruce passed away on 6th November 2025.  Bruce was the longest serving Vice President of the Society.

His funeral will be on Monday 8th December 2025 at 11:30am at Long Furlong Barn.

Long Furlong Barn
Long Furlong
Clapham
Worthing
BN13 3XN

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The family have requested no flowers please, but donations should be made via Reynolds Funerals https://www.reynoldsfunerals.co.uk/funeral/bruce-henderson/#search-results.  The charities being supporting are: The national charity Lymphoma Action https://lymphoma-action.org.uk/ and a more local charity, which was close to Bruce’s heart https://www.arundelsurgery.co.uk/asca

If you are planning to join us to celebrate Bruce’s life, could you please let Celia know so numbers can be monitored.  Her contact details are 32 Dalloway Road, Arundel, West Sussex BN18 9HW / 01903 882928 or 07768 201852

Bruce is pictures 3rd from right back row in the 1950 Stradbroke 1st XI Hockey photo.

 

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Marian Prebble (Hon OF)

  • When
    12 November 2025
  • Where
    Framlingham, Suffolk
Martin Myers-Allen (Hon OF) writes : With great sadness I beg to inform you that our longest serving Head’s PA, Marian Prebble (Hon OF) passed away, at home at 7:24 this morning.  Marian had been ill for a number of months, but passed away peacefully, at home, in Framlingham, with Gwen in attendance. Gwen has been Marian’s ‘rock’ since she left the College and we meet regularly when she comes across from France.
Marian was Head’s PA To Stanley Porter, Laurie Rimmer, James Miller, Gwen Randall and Paul Taylor.  Gwen will let me know about arrangements in due course and I will pass it on.

 

 

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David Hugh Clarke (G54-57)

  • When
    11 October 2025
  • Where
    Suffolk
  • Age
    84

He peacefully passed away on 11th October 2025, aged 84 years. Remembering a dear husband, father and grandfather, who will be greatly missed by all his family and friends. A service of thanksgiving will be held at St Michael’s Church, Framlingham on Friday 7th November at 2.00 p.m.

 

 

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James Wilfred Mayhew (R66-71)

  • When
    6 October 2025
  • Where
    Torbay Hospital, Devon
  • Age
    72

He passed away peacefully at Torbay Hospital, Devon on Monday, 6th October, 2025, aged 72 years. Much loved husband of Jane, devoted father to Rachel and Ian and 5 grandchildren. Greatly missed by his brothers Robert and Andy and many friends. The funeral service was held at Blessed Virgin Mary Church, Singleton, near Chichester, Sussex, PO18 0EY on Friday, 24th October at 2 p.m. Donations if desired, to the Taunton Opportunity Group via www.justgiving.com/page/james-mayhew

 

 

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Anthony James Martin (G47-55)

  • When
    5 October 2025
  • Where
    Aldeburgh Hospital, Suffolk
  • Age
    87

It is with great sadness that we report the death, on Sunday 5th October, of Tony Martin (G 47-55), after a short illness. Tony’s many friends within the Society and at the College, acknowledge and applaud his major contributions over many years as a Vice-President and at Council meetings, dinners and College events.

Many OFs and members of the College had visited Tony in hospital over the last couple of months and even yesterday, Ruth Elwood (P80-84) spent a few hours with him, leaving at 2.30pm, knowing he didn’t have long to live.  Soon after Ruth, John Bridges (S57-66) also visited him, leaving him in the company of very close friends, who were at his bedside when he passed at 6.00pm.

We understand there will be a very private cremation followed by a memorial/thanksgiving service in the College Chapel.

A full obituary and funeral details will follow. In the meantime, you might like to refer to his Distinguished OF profile.

 

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Bryan Leonard Parker (R49-53)

  • When
    8 February 2025
  • Where
    Earl Soham, Suffolk
  • Age
    87

Thanks to Colin Wigg (G48-54) for hearing that Bryan may have died earlier in 2025.  A search has revealed that he did die on 8 February 2025 and his funeral was held on 3 March 2025 at 11am in Earl Soham.

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David Newell Allen (S51-56)

  • When
    4 August 2025
  • Where
    York
  • Age
    88
Tim Allen (S54-63) writes : I am very sorry to say that my brother, David Allen, died at the age of 88 on 4 August 2025. He attended the school 1951-1956 and was in Stradbroke house. I understand he was a member of the SOF, as he had SOF correspondence and magazines.  He lived in York and his funeral was held in St Olave’s Church, York on 28 August 2025.
The following isthe tribute read out by Tim at his funeral :

David Newell Allen was the oldest child of Frank and Frances Allen. They lived in Quarndon near Derby. Frank was an engineer with Rolls-Royce and Frances was a nurse.

David was born in Derby on 15 July 1937. Later siblings were Rosemary and me. When David went to school he proved to be a very disruptive child, such as when sent to stand in the corner he decided to remove the wall paper.  Many years later we in the family realised that he had a mild undiagnosed autistic condition. Autism was unlikely to be recognised during David’s early years. Like many autistic people, he was very intelligent, but viewed the world differently to others, yet had a brilliant clarity of thought for things others didn’t see.

At age 8 he went to King’s college prep school, Cambridge. David was of course disruptive, but even then he was able to separate the Headmaster’s punishments from appreciation for the head’s genuine concern for  his pupils. David’s capacity for lifelong friendships began at Kings. He became deeply interested in music, and developed his passion for the music of J S Bach. Only a month ago he was recalling to me the exact date and circumstances when (still at Kings) he first heard the Bach Mass in B minor. He always had a prodigious memory. He became a good pianist and organist, and sang in choirs. Another developing passion was steam railways.

His next school was Framlingham college in Suffolk. Naturally David indulged in eccentric activities; at least once he hitch-hiked to Cambridge and back on a Sunday so that he could attend evensong in King’s College chapel.

David enjoyed making things – marmalade until very recently. He started winemaking at home in Derby. His first brew was elderberry wine. He did not get the technique quite right. My mother came home one day to discover that the ceiling of the kitchen was a rich dark purple.

In 1956 National Service was still in operation, and David was conscripted. He chose to go to the Intelligence Corps, and went to Hong Kong. On the voyage out he helped some illiterate soldiers by reading out and writing letters for them. In Hong Kong he could use his ability to see through pomposity and verbiage to underlying deceptions, scheming and falsehoods. He saw lots wrong with his unit of the Intelligence Corps, and he duly parted from them to join the Lincolnshire Regiment on active service in Malaya. They were in the jungle fighting communist rebels. What gave him most pleasure was coaching other National Servicemen for civilian careers. He was always gentle and he was very proud that he never fired his rifle in action (though he had qualified as a marksman). He felt shame to be described as an active service veteran, when in his view his service had been nothing like as nasty and dangerous as those who had served eg in the trenches in WW1. When he left the army he was given a testimonial that said he was ‘a quiet and likeable man, with above average intelligence. He has worked hard and proved himself a willing member of his platoon. He is exceptionally well behaved’. Some change from his first school!

After National Service, David went up to St Johns College Durham to read for a Durham General Arts degree. He soon found St Johns, an evangelical college, did not suit him at all, and he disagreed with their theological views. He left Durham for Wells theological college. He survived the initiation there whereby senior students took the freshers to a pub where local rough cider was on tap and the typical fresher thought it was no stronger than beer. He passed the General Ordination exam in 1965.

He was ordained deacon in Bradford Cathedral, and went to a parish in Bradford. He soon found that the vicar had different and incompatible ways to his own and that was the end of parish work for him in England, I believe to his lasting regret. However, he retained the strong thread that ran throughout his life of his faith, his spirituality, a deep and contemplative regard for the meaning of life and of God.

He attached himself loosely to Derby Cathedral. He admired the organist, George Heath-Gracie. He did some pastoral work for the cathedral, particularly in hospitals.

David obtained a teaching qualification, and taught at some schools for a few years. One such was the Red House prep school near here. The Marygate car park over the road was the site of one of David’s memorable feats. He borrowed a Morris Minor from someone at Red House to come into York. He parked across the way. When he finished in York, he went back to the car park, unlocked the Minor, started up and went back to Red House. When there he realised the car was not the one he had borrowed, and that he had inadvertently stolen someone’s car.

In the early 70s David decided to go to North America. He got himself a working passage in a fishing boat to Newfoundland. He was commissioned by the Archbishop of Newfoundland to do parish work there. He enjoyed being in Newfoundland, but left to take up a place reading theology at the university of Manchester in 1976.

David had a good relationship with his Professor, Richard Hanson, and had 3 enjoyable years at Manchester, where he made some enduring friends. He graduated with a BA in theology in 1979.

Canada beckoned him again. He received an invitation through contacts to go to North Labrador to work as a Moravian missionary at Nain. He enjoyed his work there and developed a deep interest in Labrador and the work there of the naturalist and botanist Sir Joseph Banks. Years later he could be found in the library of the Royal Society researching Bank’s papers. Whilst at Nain the local Inuit showed David how to build an igloo. Later further south in Labrador he, from temperate Derby, taught town-dwelling Inuit this skill.

A typical David event occurred when he had finished in Labrador. He decided to visit an Anglican foundation in the USA, and his mode of transport was a bicycle. Somewhere in Maine, at night in the pouring rain, one of his tyres was punctured. Whilst he was struggling with this, a car drew up. It was a British Hillman car of the same type our parents had. The female American driver offered help, and the bicycle was put on the car and they went to her home. She offered him accommodation, and they formed an enduring friendship.

In 1996 David moved to the house in York where he lived until his death. He had a wide network of long term friends, whom he visited on an annual peregrination. He built a library of serious historical, spiritual, religious and philosophical – and railway – books. He loved the work of CS Lewis, JRR Tolkien and TS Eliot. He had some fiction (Hardy and Trollope|) and all the novels of Dostoevsky, naturally along with the commentary by his friend Rowan Williams. He was deeply interested in Orthodoxy, and belonged to the Fellowship of St Alban and St Sergius. He had a good sense of humour and was wary of serious pontification. Once he read out to me a passage from a civil war book saying that when Cromwell and the Puritans took power, a wave of seriousness swept across England. He looked up and said ‘Oh no’. He maintained interest in the modern world, read the Guardian and the New Statesman, though any view he expressed would go back for origins at least 100 years. Surprisingly, he was able to discuss lady’s fashion with niece Daisy. He was a keen reader of the Resurgence and Ecologist magazine. He recently expressed interest in going on a course run by the neuroscientist Iain McGilchrist. He gave money regularly to Crisis for homelessness and to cancer research. I saw that when he went to a supermarket he always contributed to the food bank. He loved family, particularly his nephew Alexander and Daisy. When they were young they loved pulling his beard and playing with him and his giant shoes. Recently he got his own back by pulling Alexander’s beard. He was very interested in people and always asked about them and their families. He was always kind. In the last few years we visited as much as we could. Last year he broke his hip, and never properly recovered. Last Christmas, Daisy and I were able to take him out to Bettys, where at his request they gave him an item from their summer menu – an ice cream sundae. There were more frequent visits to hospital, and each time we noticed a reduction in his physical condition. The end came peacefully on the 4th of August. David was very special and much loved; he will be greatly missed and long remembered.

Deaths

Ian Marsden (S48-51)

  • When
    13 August 2025
  • Where
    Queen Alexandra Hospital, Southampton
  • Age
    90

We have been advised that Ian died of sepsis with associated pneumonia after a short illness, on Wednesday 13th August 2025 at QA Hospital Southampton.   No other details known.

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Nicholas Charles Carlton MM (G63-70)

  • When
    11 August 2025
  • Where
    Mandurah, Western Australia
  • Age
    72
  • Story

Nick Carlton was a Captain with Princess cruises.  His obituary was spotted in the Daily Telegraph on 11 August 2025 stating the following :  CARLTON – Nicholas Charles, Captain Nick Carlton, died on 11th July 2025 in Mandurah, Western Australia, aged 72.  He leaves a son James.

His funeral was at 2:00pm on Thursday 31 July 2025 at Bowra & O’Dea Mandurah Chapel, 460 Pinjarra Road, Greenfields, Western Australia.

He features in Distinguished for saving a life “In 33 years at sea Captain Nick Carlton has never heard the cry “man overboard”, until August 2003.  At the time he was Captain of the P&O liner Pacific Sky.  When the shout was made he immediately turned the ship around and headed back to search.  After nearly 3 hours of searching in 25 knot winds and rough seas, the man was remarkably found and brought back on board.”

 

 

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